Ego Talks, Confidence Whispers
Last month, I recorded a podcast episode with my FAVORITE TikToker of all time, Meredith Lynch.
Meredith is a writer, a comedian, and pop-culture expert.
I started following her a few years ago, and was really captivated by her critiques of celebrity brands, late stage capitalism, and general takes on pop culture.
One of her TikToks really hit something for me— she pointed out how Bethenny Frankel sounds like Donald Trump. Meredith referenced the research of Marleen S. Barr, a Fordham University communications professor, who studied the speech patterns of the Real Housewives of New York, pointing out how similar Bethenny Frankel’s speech patterns are to Donald Trump.
Ever since I watched Meredith’s TikTok, I haven’t been able to get this out of my head. Bethenny is trump! If you don’t believe me, watch this clip of Bethenny incessantly reminding us that she was the first housewife to do xyz.
REMIND YOU OF ANYONE?
When I recorded with Meredith, she said something that I really loved. She said nobody doubts her accomplishments, and that “confidence is often quiet.”
This reminds me so much of that old saying: Money Talks, Wealth Whispers.
The same is true for confidence.
The same is true for everything.
If you truly have money, you don’t need to brag about it (hello stealth wealth). If you’re really smart, you usually don’t feel the need to prove your intellect to others. If you are genuinely kind, you usually don’t need others to recognize your kindness.
The need to incessantly point out your virtues, gifts, and accomplishments stems from a lack of confidence.
Think about the couples who post novels in instagram captions about how much they love each other. How many of them actually make it? Pretty much none, right? Doth protest too much.
Same thing here.
So think to yourself…what am I the most adamant and self-aggrandizing about? Do you often talk about how good your relationship is? How good you are at something? A talent that you have? A work or school accomplishment? That might be a sign that you actually are not confident in that very thing, and that you need to do some inner child work around it.
Before you go off to do that inner child work, check out the full interview with Meredith Lynch. Episode 165, “Spilling Tea with Meredith Lynch” is available everywhere you listen to podcasts (including on Apple/iTunes here) and the full video is available on Spotify.
